Today is one of those frustration days about my husband’s upbringing and gender roles.
His mother did everything in the house while he was growing up and it shows. He does a few things around the house but mostly leaves things to me. There are times when it felt like maybe he does this becasue he works and I don’t but then there are little things he does that points to it also being a gender role problem. He simply didn’t grow up doing household things. He doesn’t know how to use our washer/dryer and doesn’t know how the dishwasher works.
I guess you can also call him a bit of a mama’s boy at times.
He also told me once that his father doesn’t know how to cook rice.
Today after breakfast he got up to put the dishes to the kitchen. It was getting to me that he will simply stack the dishes on top of each other on the counter. He doesn’t scrap the food off, raise them or put them in the sink. I asked him this morning if he can please start doing that. He looks at me, seriously and says “Can’t you do that?”
It’s frustrating becasue most of the times he can be very forward thinking, even more then most American’s but then little things like this happen and India’s view of woman and gender roles comes through.
We once had a talk about having children. My husband told me that he is too busy for children right now. I know that wont change and I realized that I would be doing all child care. It is one of the many reasons (not the only one or the primary reason) we are choosing to be a childfree couple as I feel I could not handle that.